In her most recent email, Emily P. Freeman offered three questions for reflecting on February. She includes a different set of questions every month and this is the first time I’ve ever stopped to really think about them. I’ve played with the format a little bit and have included a “flipside” to each question. February was a hard month and I wanted to include a more complete snapshot of life right now – nothing is all good, nor is it all bad.
Name something newly important to you
After being inspired by Juliann to attempt Veganuary, I’ve been making solid changes to transition to a plant based diet after hemming and hawing for several years. I’m not perfect and have a long way to go; plus, I know that I’ll never be totally vegan given that we keep hens and I’m a big lover of local honey. And still – I’m making changes, little by little, that I hope will improve my health. So thinking about the food that I eat is something that is newly important to me.
My Flipside: Name something that’s just not as important as it was
Washing dishes. I don’t have a dishwasher and have spent the last 7.5 years (since having my first baby) constantly washing dishes. I hate having dirty dishes sitting in the sink and have always tried to wash them right away. I tried an experiment in February: what would happen if I just stacked the dishes in the sink all day and then washed them after the kids went to bed? Friends – it’s been life changing. The big stack of dishes never takes as long as I think it will and I can simply focus on the dishes, rather than balancing a million other things at the same time. I think this is something that’s going to stick around for a while.
What was a moment of heartache in February?
Forehead bruising. You might know that my middle child, Colton, is autistic. You probably don’t know how dangerous his meltdowns can be. He is a major head banger and he throws his little body around violently. He has put multiple holes in the walls and dents on the refrigerator, the Instant Pot, and the oven. We had to work really hard to keep him safe in February and had several bruises on his forehead to kiss and cuddle. It’s so hard to witness and manage.
My Flipside: What was a moment of joy in February?
Watching Colton learn to use his assistive communication device. My sincere hope is that his meltdowns will slow down when he feels like he can adequately communicate with us. It’s not an easy device to learn to use and he’s getting better with it every day.
What’s something you look forward to in March?
Spending more time outside and planting seeds in the basement.
What’s something you dread in March?
All the mud that’s going to accumulate in our walkway once the snow really starts to melt. Getting Colton out to the van without a squish through the mud is quite a challenge!
Is there anything about February that you’d like to share?